When a guy says he’s busy, what does it really mean? I date a pretty busy guy so I’m use to hearing that phrase, and thinking nothing else of it. But recently my friend has been out and about in the dating scene. The guy she went out with for a couple of times, one day, told her that he’s busy. So, she decided to ask a guy friend to define what it means when a guy tells a girl that he’s busy.
The answer she got back was a let down. Her guy friend told her that it meant he no longer wanted to see her and that it was basically a way of rejecting a girl nicely. When she was telling me this I was scratching my head…wait what?! Hold up…
First of all you listened to that guy friend?! The single one? The one that’s a little duh duh?
Now that’s definitely a guy you wouldn’t want to date. A guy that can’t even tell you the truth. If he’s saying he’s busy to get out of a date, that tells me he’s a wuss. Oh what? Because he wanted to spare your feelings? No way! I take a blunt person over a wuss any day.
Here was my answer to her:
Maybe instead of jumping to conclusions you should slow down and just go back to the basics. Take in that phrase “I’m busy” as just that, he is truly busy.
Then I told her why a busy guy is actually not a bad thing…
A guy that doesn’t answer your text right away…umm maybe because he’s in an important meeting at work. Oh yes, he have a job. He’s not sitting with his phone all day texting.
Instead of sitting there in fear of rejection…
Try to be encouraging. If his day was truly busy, it probably means that he’s trying to meet a deadline of some sort. Even a phrase like, “Hope your day was filled with success” can put a smile on someone’s face and make their day better. Especially when they know someone actually cared and is genuinely patient to their current situation.
If people just tried to understand one another instead of jumping to conclusions…there might just be more supportive and successful couples out there…
I don’t know…just some thoughts…what do you think?