How to fix an a-hole was the topic for a week, with one of my friends. I will tell you the conclusion now. If the a-hole is not a “new” one, but yet indeed one that you met and was that way from the beginning, then stop. You can’t “fix” him and it’s partially your fault as to why you fell for him and stayed with him.
As I got older, I realize that everyone grew up with their own experiences and situations. Most of the times the way we deal with things are because of these experiences. You can’t change who you are because it is a part of you, but you can be aware of it. Which leads me to next best thing, “How to deal with an a-hole.”
First of all, no one have to deal with anyone they don’t want to deal with. BUT…if you want to, then don’t complain and really, just deal with it.
Here are some things you should know and should do for the person you are with:
1. Know why the a-hole is the way they are.
2. Find out what they perceive as love.
3. Always look at yourself first when there is an argument.
4. Don’t say anything out of anger, step back and breath.
5. Correct yourself, learn, and grow.
6. When you feel criticized, think of it as an opportunity to grow and become better.
These are just some of the things I think of when dealing with someone a little difficult. There’s always room for you to grow, so don’t take things personal, take it as an opportunity to become a better you.
The most important thing is to know why you want to be with this person. Once you know that, then be committed. You came in and knew it was going to be hard. So, see it through. If not, stop wasting each other’s time, and at least love one another enough to know that it is time to let go.